“A thin line“

Falling in love with our solitude means that we naturally set high standards and create healthy boundaries to protect our energy. In this wonderful world of sin, it is natural to encounter people who unintentionally or intentionally take until there is nothing left to give. Precisely why the responsibility to reinforce our boundaries and surround ourselves with well-meaning people lays on us. We also can’t claim to want peace, respect, forgiveness, kindness, etc., and not be willing to give it to others.

The stories we are exposed to have enormous effects on our well-being, especially those of our loved ones which increase our susceptibility to second hand trauma. It’s important to know and accept we all have our cross to carry on our independent paths. But we can be of service to others in that present moment. By selflessly listening with compassion and empathy. Giving sound advice and encouragement. Offering tangible or intangible resources. As Joan Crawford said, we are not required to set ourselves on fire to keep others warm.

Remaining centred in self is a solid foundation for healthy relationships. No matter the role(s) we have or choose to play- daughter, son, wife, husband, mother, father, friend, etc., we can’t pour from an empty cup. Yung Pueblo, in clarity and connection said, “Loving people does not mean you let them hurt you. Loving yourself and others unconditionally is a balance between protecting yourself and giving to others.” Self-neglect is not selflessness, and self-care is not selfishness. Knowing the difference between a need and want helps to not cross a thin line.